A healing life-force; an unexpected source of healing, from the pain of a loss. Now, we come to Need # 2, within the Companioning Model of grief and mourning. And, that is, embrace the pain. Whew! A big one, for me. Intellectually, I can fathom, why this is offered as a path to healing. However, the thought of willingly, seeking out pain, frankly, scares me. I DON’T WANT TO HURT! But, alas, the data is there to support the validity of confronting; becoming well-acquainted with my pain in order to let the pain pass through, my life rather than getting stuck… within, my life. Herewith is what I found.
The Masters, from all walks of life, shared in some form or fashion, that…
- Pain is necessary to produce strength
- Pain provides an impetus to learn, grow, and improve
- Pain builds the stamina which carries us through future tough times. It reminds us that we will survive.
- Pain brings clarity.
- Pain gives us wisdom because it is often best understood looking backwards.
- Pain gives us balance and reminds us of what is really important.
- Pain points us toward God and the need to rely on God. Special thanks, specifically to Brian Dodd, Author for the above points
There were other teachings on how I, we, might benefit from this pain that we share. It was…
- Pain brings us together because it is part of everyone’s story. No one is immune. Pain reminds us that we need help, we need a team; we need support to walk this journey. “God comforts us in all our troubles so that we can comfort others. When we are weighed down with troubles(pain), it is for your comfort and salvation! For when we ourselves are comforted, we will certainly comfort you. Then you can patiently endure the same things” 2 Corinthians 1, 4 and 6
- “There is a saying in Tibetan, ‘Tragedy should be utilized as a source of strength.’ No matter what sort of difficulties, how painful an experience is, if we lose our hope, that’s our real disaster.” Dalai Lama XIV Tibetan Buddhist Monk
- “Our wounds can be the openings into the best and most beautiful part of us.” David Richo Teacher; Author
- “Let me not pray to be sheltered from dangers,
but to be fearless in facing them.
Let me not beg for the stilling of my pain, but
for the heart to conquer it.” Tagore Indian Author; Nobel Prize 1913
- We must translate pain into action, and tears into growth” The Rebbe –Torah Teacher; Chassidic Movement
- Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil: for thou art with me; thy rod and thy staff they comfort me. Psalm 23:4 Old Testament
- And, after you have suffered a little while, God, himself will restore you and make you strong, firm, and steadfast. 1 Peter 5:10 New Testament
Dear Reader; fellow Sojourner on this road of healing and health, for me…That, is the final Word…” God himself, herself, will make me strong, firm, and steadfast.”
I Put My Hand In Your Hand And Together We Can Do What We Could Never Do Alone Saying from 12 Step Program